Stop trying is the answer.
So how is it going with your New Year’s Resolutions? Here we are – week 3 of the new year and my resolution is going great. I decided to stop trying anything for 2012 (and for the rest of my life). Why? Because trying is a state of mind and it is a trap for losing and aggravation – or as I like to say it in a fancy way (I like to say a lot of things in a fancy way) – willfully engaging in a prolonged struggle that will lead to certain failure.
I learned this from one of my favorite coaches – my 3rd grade son.
He came home from school the other day with his (or should I say OUR) homework. New for this year, he has to grade his own assignments on a scale of 1-4 with 4 being the best. I asked him how he thought he did on his assignments and he said a 3. I asked him what he thought he could have done to make him feel like he did “4” work. Surprisingly he had 3 specific things he thought he could have done (I was blown away!). I asked him that since he knew what he could do to be a 4, if he was going to do 3 or a 4 work with his next assignment. He said he would try to be a 4. This struck my coaching chord in me.