“My success isn’t a result of arrogance – it’s a result of belief.” Conor McGregor
Do you believe that success comes easily when you have some special talent or ability? Do you believe that motivation is key? Do you believe it is a by-product of hard work? Early in my career, I believed those things. Actually, I still believe success is possible with any of those things – it’s also exhausting, not fun, and can leave you vulnerable for feeling like you ultimately don’t matter anyway no matter how well you get paid.
In my many years as an HR executive I have witnessed countless people who were facing performance counseling become upset about not being valued because of…
- what they could do (but of course, weren’t being utilized to their full ability)
- they are self-motivated (“My boss pays no attention to me and still I get my work done”)
- how hard they work (they felt they worked hard – why didn’t anyone else?)
“How dare other people not see all these wonderful things about me!” was the bubble fixated over their head while they were in their performance counseling meeting.
Often, what people fail to absorb is that what you do is never more important than how you impact others. What you do will never give you power – only this will…