What a lazy river taught me about getting what I want in life – here’s how you can get what you want in your life too – maybe even for free!

Last week my husband took some vacation time and we treated our kids to a bunch of different day trips.  One day at the beach, another day with friends, another at the pool, another bowling, mini-golfing and just some goofin’ off.  And on one day we went to a water park in Pennsylvania – this was a magical day for many reasons…


A few things were ideal – the weather was perfect (everything depends on the weather – doesn’t it?), the park wasn’t crowded (turns out some kids in Pennsylvania went back to school a bit earlier than we did in New Jersey – no lines!), and everyone was into it and in a good mood (not easy to get your kids to agree on activities when they are 5.5 years apart and opposite genders).


The look on their faces when we went down the slides together in 1 giant family-sized tube left an indelible imprint on my mind and my heart.  My daughter’s expression of pure joy and excitement with an imaginary bubble over her head that read “again!” before the ride was even over, and my teenage son’s smile that fully exposed his braces practically back to his molars coupled with a high pitched scream over the anticipation of the drops, twists and turns of the slide was priceless!  I’m sure it was priceless for them to see me and my husband go down a massive water slide on our bellies that made my husband go airborne and a major splash of water to my face that left mascara tracks running down my face.


Of course, we didn’t start out the day this adventurous or uninhibited – we started out on the lazy river.  No kid was initially convinced the place wasn’t too baby-ish for them, I had no initial plan to get my hair or face wet (silly me!), and my husband was up for a “lazy river nap session” after the long drive – so the lazy river it was.


On that initial float around the park, I had a breakthrough… (yes, even at the water park on a vacation day in August my mind does not stop observing ways to gain clarity, confidence and conviction to experience a sustainable sense of fulfillment in life).


The lazy river taught me how to get what I wanted in life – here’s what happened…

All 4 of us had our own inner tube – but of course – we weren’t even around the first bend when my protective mamma instinct kicked in – I “had to” make sure I could see both my kids (you never know where some portal to an alternate Universe exists on a lazy river and it’s only activated when a Mom loses sight of her kid).  In the moment of realizing I couldn’t see my young daughter, I tensed up.  Looking all over I noticed she was actually several people ahead of me.  I started paddling to catch up to her but I realized I wasn’t moving anywhere.  “I must be caught in a current”  I thought (right, on a “lazy” river)?  There it was – the insanity of my thought – it couldn’t be me that was inhibiting my ability to move forward – it had to be the current, the tube, or that floating band-aid keeping me from my baby!  At least at this point in my life I’ve evolved enough to catch my totally insane thoughts quickly after I think them – so I got that going for me – which is nice!  The truth I remembered, is that when you are tense, panicked, and working from a place of fear – you go nowhere – even in a system designed to pull you forward! – DUH!


In that moment I remembered to practice what was taught to me and that I preach to others – calm down, breathe, and know that it’s you that’s keeping you stuck (after all, this isn’t the ocean – there is no riptide – it’s a freakin’ lazy river – with a built in current designed to take you forward)!


A lazy river works exactly the same way that energy in the universe works!  


Once you get clear what you want, and stop blaming everyone else around you for your stuckedness (is that a word?), and calm down (stop paddling so frantically), you will naturally move to your desired destination.


I was reminded of what my mentors Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood (Co-authors of “The Passion Test:  The Effortless Path To Discovering Your Life Purpose”) always say:


“When you are clear, what you want will show up in your life and only to the extent you are clear.”   “And calm about it” (I added the calm part to the end of their quote).


I was already clear what I wanted, so I calmed down (that meant letting go of HOW what I wanted had to show up – i.e. paddling frantically – working so hard – too hard!), let go, and let “the universe” (God in my case), steer the tube.


I relaxed my tightly tensed up body, stop frantically paddling, and within less than 1 second I was back in the flow, (Ohmm, Chanti, Ohmmmm!), drifting effortlessly toward my daughter.  Within seconds her dainty fingers were clutched around my big toe – only I was a bit more evolved (and much more relaxed), than the mom she had not even 2 minutes before when I helped her into her inner tube.  After that reminder breakthrough it was just effortless to relax, have fun – and yes – let my hair get wet and my mascara run.


This week I have a renewed sense of self, faith in the energy and power of the universe and conviction for my work.  And I can’t wait to share it with all of you!


So now that you learned what a lazy river taught me about getting what I want in life – here’s how you can get what you want in your life too – maybe even for free!


Starting on September 14th, I will be teaching The Passion Test live, on-line via zoom!


And if you are a graduate of my full Bootcamp program – you can attend for free!  Yes – for free!


That means for 4 Wednesdays:


September 14

September 21

September 28

October 5


from 8:00pm – 9:30 pm EDT …


…you can connect on-line, live, with me to experience The Passion Test – step-by-step!  


Accessible to anyone, of any faith, from any background, The Passion Test is the #1 process worldwide for discovering and unleashing the things that matter most to you in life.  Plus it’s simple, powerful, and fun to do!  During this program you’ll discover:


  • What passion is and why it matters
  • 10 things that matter most to you – for you to feel fulfilled, happy and excited about life
  • Your top 5 passions (clues to your purpose)
  • How to focus your attention and know when your passions are alive in your life
  • 3 elements that are necessary to create anything you choose to have in your life
  • The secret to guaranteeing a passionate, meaningful and sustainably fulfilling life


If you are…


  • at a turning point in your life
  • feel like your life is in a state of flux
  • that you’re ready for a new direction but – you can’t get there OR you’re not quite sure what that direction is


…then you will enjoy this workshop!


Over the 4 weeks you will not only have a tool to discover your 5 passions, you will have the opportunity to gain a level of clarity about what really matters most in your life and you will learn how to align your life with those passions!


If you are not a graduate of my full bootcamp but we have worked together before – you can join the workshop (and bring a friend) for only $47!  


If we have never worked together before, you can still join the workshop too – I am offering an initial introductory rate for first time clients of only $147 (and yes – you can bring a friend too!)


Don’t miss out on this unique first time offer of The Passion Test!  Note:  This is a live webcast – there won’t be a replay available.  


To register, email me at gina@indigoforce.com 


Oops! – I almost forgot….


You can also join me tomorrow at 2:30pm where I will give a live 30 minute webcast explaining more about the benefits of The Passion Test workshop starting September 14th!  To get the details about tomorrow’s live webcast email me at gina@indigoforce.com 


Join me!  Give yourself (and someone you know), the gift of discovering living life with passion – free yourself from indecision, confusion and feeling powerless to have what you want from life!  Experience the transformation that occurs when you take the time to determine what really matters most to you in your life.  Register now at gina@indigoforce.com 


About Gina Calvano

Gina Calvano is a certified coach and Senior Professional in Human Resources, with over 20 years of experience as a talent management professional in both the private and non-profit sectors. With a unique approach, she combines her strategic corporate expertise and accreditations with metaphysics and transformational thinking which has resulted in people all over the world feeling good about themselves and connected to a sense of purpose.

She created the Success Readiness Bootcamp™, a step by step process that enables people to easily discover their unique talents and abilities and match them to majors, jobs, industries and leisure pursuits. Gina is also the co-author of Breakthrough! Inspirational Strategies for an Audaciously Authentic Life with NY Times Best Selling Authors Marci Shimoff, Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood and Powerful Connections Made Easy™ with Aprille Trupiano, and is currently working on her next book — Caged in My Cube: The Turnaround Guide For Loving The Job You Hate.

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