Ready to quit? Maybe you should – here’s how to know…

To quit or not to quit – that is the question


In my last blog I offered you the opportunity to understand the importance of adopting a daily recovery strategy This strategy will help you to recharge after the daily, draining demands of your job.  Not engaging in an active plan to recover is like making daily purchases on your debit or credit card but never adding any money into your accounts.  Eventually the bank will shut you down and you will risk bankruptcy and maybe even exposure as being fraudulent in your practices.


Yes – the effects of draining job demands are cumulative.  It’s a debt that racks up and eventually it manifests as health issues (exhaustion, susceptible to common infections such as colds and flus, gastro-intestinal problems, back/neck/shoulder pain, panic and anxiety disorders, depression – to name a few), if left unaddressed.  The truth is you can recover and heal from the daily affects of your job – especially if you are going through a tough time that you know will soon pass.


But what if your not so sure this tough time at work is a passing phase?  Do you have this unsettled feeling about your job?  Are the demanding conditions an expected way of life (and it’s not what you want for your life)?  Is your fight or flight instinct is kicking in?  Are you wanting to run (quietly and quickly) or stirring up a heap of trouble due to feeling backed into that same corner where all the other “misunderstood and undervalued” employees are hanging out (are you fighting with some poor souls who deserve it – and even some who don’t)?  Maybe the time has come to make a drastic move – right out the company front door.


(Almost) convinced you’re ready to quit?  Maybe you should – here’s how to know…


2 factors that matter greatly for deciding if you should stay or go -even without another job lined up are:


1.  Do you have mostly high or low control over the problems you are facing at work?  List out the problems that are contributing to you feeling like you want to quit.


2.  Do you have mostly high or low control over your emotional reaction to the problems you are facing at work (how easy is it for you to feel how you are feeling but choose a more productive reaction anyway)?  For each problem you observe – assess how much is left in your “emotional bank account” to react productively to that problem.


If you believe you have low emotional control and low problem control – do 2 things ASAP:

1.  get some time off from your job if you can.


This is one of the most effective times you can ever use your sick or vacation days.


2.  seek help from a career coach (me!) or a Dr.


Get in touch with someone who is qualified to help you sort through your unique situation and help you build confidence for what to do next.


Sometimes it does make sense to quit and move on – especially if your health and/or emotional well-being is at stake.  A good career coach can help you through this, get a life plan for how to handle the impacts of losing your job, and guide you on how to explain this transition to future employers.


DO NOT continue in the job with no plan for how to cope with continued exposure to a situation that draws from your empty emotional bank account.   In my experience, emotional debt at work is a fast track to actual financial debt (depending how quickly you can heal, how much you have in your financial accounts to draw from, and if you have other means of income).




Maybe your urge to quit is tame and refined right now – occurring to you as a cerebral, dignified, brilliant idea – “Perhaps it’s time I start looking for another job – one more fitting and worthy of my impeccable knowledge, skills and abilities.”


Just know the moment you begin to have thoughts of quitting because of something you see to be wrong with your current job, employer, work environment, etc. (which erroneously identifies the problem as being outside of yourself), you put yourself in a situation that is likely to build velocity for revealing more and more false evidence that justifies emotional quitting.  The truth is there’s nothing wrong with the job.  I’m not suggesting that you are the problem either.  I’m saying that neither you nor the job are the problem – but the two of you together may very well be a mismatch that produces mutual collateral damage.


It’s time to align with your work.


If you have any thoughts at all about quitting your job – shift this single perspective for yourself to keep your self-esteem and confidence in tact (maybe even to power it up) …


…don’t think of it as quitting “your job” – instead – realize you are just ready to start doing “your work”!


In other words – are you running from something or running toward something greater?


Need help figuring it out?  Call me today!


From now until Labor Day I am offering a free 15 minute To Quit or Not to Quit consultation session.  In this free session I will review with you the 2 factors that matter greatly for deciding the best strategy for you to cope with the situation at work that has you so stressed out, you want to walk out.


Yes!  Sign me up!


At the end of the 15 minute session, I will offer you a preferred rate for a 1 hour To Quit or Not to Quit coaching session.  In this 1 hour session we will go through your situation in detail and I will help you figure out:


  1. Your daily “emotional wealth building” action plan
  2. Personal clarity for the 2 factors that matter for deciding “To Quit or Not to Quit?”  (that is the question)!
  3. Your best recovery strategy given your unique situation.


After the To Quit or Not to Quit coaching session, I will also offer you a second session also at a preferred rate!  


My Personal Brand Confidence coaching session is a great follow-up to shift how you approach your current job AND to prepare yourself for interviewing for new jobs.


This session offers you the opportunity to:

  • discover what you have to offer to others (discover what “your work” truly is)!
  • approach your job with a whole new level of clarity, confidence and conviction!
  • learn how to explain what you do for others in a way that sets you apart from your competition
  • feel confident about how to market yourself  – even over others with more experience than you
  • content for your resume or cover letters


You don’t have to struggle figuring out what to do while suffering in your current situation.  Help is here!  Schedule your free session today!

About Gina Calvano

Gina Calvano is a certified coach and Senior Professional in Human Resources, with over 20 years of experience as a talent management professional in both the private and non-profit sectors. With a unique approach, she combines her strategic corporate expertise and accreditations with metaphysics and transformational thinking which has resulted in people all over the world feeling good about themselves and connected to a sense of purpose.

She created the Success Readiness Bootcamp™, a step by step process that enables people to easily discover their unique talents and abilities and match them to majors, jobs, industries and leisure pursuits. Gina is also the co-author of Breakthrough! Inspirational Strategies for an Audaciously Authentic Life with NY Times Best Selling Authors Marci Shimoff, Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood and Powerful Connections Made Easy™ with Aprille Trupiano, and is currently working on her next book — Caged in My Cube: The Turnaround Guide For Loving The Job You Hate.

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