Help! I hate my job! – part 2

Do you frequently say to yourself or others “I hate my job”?

In my last blog post, I started to introduce you to the idea that there can be benefits to being in a job you hate over being in a job you feel “lukewarm” about – especially if what you want is to be in a job you can love.  In that post I explained WHAT you must do – which is basically to confidently give what you have to offer to others.  So you might be wondering – “HOW do I develop confidence for what I have to offer to others?”…

All you have to determine is what you can give and decide to give it.  When you do this in a situation you don’t feel deserves what you have to give or in one that you think it will be hard to give it in – it becomes a “grand gesture” which accelerates your ability to notice and secure opportunities to easily give what you have to give (i.e. in a job and work environment you can love).

I love to use an analogy to explain this concept so you can easily absorb it deeply.  If you have ever seen the movie “Pretty Woman” with Richard Gere and Julia Roberts – you will get this concept in a snap!

In the movie Richard plays a conservative, emotionally-guarded business professional who has certain phobias (which are mostly fueled by doing anything outside of his comfort zone) – imagine him as representing you.  Julia plays a fearless, free-spirited prostitute who settles for nothing less than what she wants – imagine her as representing your dream job who can’t wait to be loved by you.

Under very unconventional/dysfunctional circumstances (the job you hate), they find each other, fall in love and the question becomes what to do about it – neither of them are very good at walking away from something they want – he wants her and she wants a fairy-tale esque romance (with him of course even though she gets that a fairy tale story is probably way out of his comfort zone so it will be highly unlikely to happen).  In the end, he goes to her seedy neighborhood and apartment (the place of employment you hate), to win her back – in a white limo (his version of a white horse) and he climbs up her fire escape (even though he is afraid of heights) to profess his feelings (way outside of his comfort zone) and win the girl.

If he did things within his comfort zone (i.e. call her on the phone, send someone to her apartment with flowers and request to meet him back in Beverly Hills or do nothing and just think about her the rest of his life adding her to the list of things that torture him emotionally), he wouldn’t have won her over.

He got her attention quickly and immediately on his side to succeed despite their prior conflicts/obstacles because he demonstrated that he is ready to give her what she needs to feel cherished – not just what makes him comfortable to give because of the circumstances surrounding him.  Plus, he did it in a way where he seemed happy to give it – he was happy climbing out of the roof of the limo with the flowers and smiling as he climbed up that fire escape – he wasn’t sweating, whining and saying things like “I hate this neighborhood”, “I hate heights”, “this is hard and scary”.  He was giving off energy that resonated with being in love despite external factors.  What was unspoken, but shown in his actions despite the circumstances and the setting, was how serious and ready he was to have her in his life and she was there for him – routing him on the whole way up that fire escape and “rescuing him right back”.

I want to help you determine what you can give and find the confidence to make a “grand gesture” to give it – especially if you are in a situation that isn’t easy, fun, enjoyable or gratifying.  A “grand gesture” in this kind of situation is a much faster path to being aligned with work you can love than when you are in a situation you feel lukewarm about (i.e. being in “like” vs being in “love”).  Being in “like” can be comfortable – it’s not too risky – but it doesn’t make you feel motivated to give a “grand gesture” or to find a situation you can “love”.

The Success Readiness Bootcamp created by indigoforce is an excellent way to discover what you have to give to others and to find confidence giving it no matter what situation you are currently in!  Now there is a do-it-yourself version of The Success Readiness Bootcamp.  So if you are in a job you hate or if you are just confused about what to be when you “grow up” you can get the same great program I lead my private clients through at a more affordable price – just email me at and let me know that you want more details – plus, we can schedule a free 1 hour consultation so you can determine if the program is right to help you figure out your next career step and secure a job you can love!

About Gina Calvano

Gina Calvano is a certified coach and Senior Professional in Human Resources, with over 20 years of experience as a talent management professional in both the private and non-profit sectors. With a unique approach, she combines her strategic corporate expertise and accreditations with metaphysics and transformational thinking which has resulted in people all over the world feeling good about themselves and connected to a sense of purpose.

She created the Success Readiness Bootcamp™, a step by step process that enables people to easily discover their unique talents and abilities and match them to majors, jobs, industries and leisure pursuits. Gina is also the co-author of Breakthrough! Inspirational Strategies for an Audaciously Authentic Life with NY Times Best Selling Authors Marci Shimoff, Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood and Powerful Connections Made Easy™ with Aprille Trupiano, and is currently working on her next book — Caged in My Cube: The Turnaround Guide For Loving The Job You Hate.

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