…know what you want – part 3

The great thing about getting clear about something you what and making a decision to have it is that you immediately get it. I never used to get that until I realized that taking chronic action on opportunities that bring you closer to what you want just deepens the experience of having what you want.  The more clear (and sure) you are of what you want, the more confidence and conviction you enjoy in the process.  

That feeling is reward enough – wouldn’t you agree?  

Doesn’t it always feels good to know you are getting something you want?  Doesn’t it also feel good to enjoy confidence and feel excited about the actions you take in life?  I know it does for me.  I sometimes get so caught up in this part of the process alone (because it is soooo sweet all by itself), that I often forget the best part of the manifestation process, and that is that you often get more than you ever imagined to be possible.  That is what I love the most about making clear choices – the only thing unforeseen is the magnitude of the gain.  What I didn’t know is that  I could experience emotional overwhelm (in a good way!) because of it.

As you know from reading my first two blogs on this topic, A lot can change in a matter of days if you know what you want and …know what you want part 2, I spent 2 1/2 days with 3 NY Times Best Selling authors and 11 other future NY Times Best Selling authors.  I did this because I made a decision to write a book and to have a support team of high-caliber professionals in the transformational thinking and mindset field guide me in this book writing journey.

At the very beginning of our time together I was so curious about what the authors were thinking about each of us and, of course, especially about me.  Where they thinking “that’s been done”, or “there is no audience for that kind of work.”  Of course everyone else seemed so brilliant to me and they had a message that was so interesting.   I was certain that for everyone else they were thinking “Oh – yes – this is who we wanted in our program – this one will go far” and for me they were thinking “Eww – how did this one make it past the selection process?”  Even I, in the presence of my industry celebrities, had a moment of forgetting one of my cardinal rules – if you are there, you are meant to be there.

All of these anxieties were quickly melted away.  I felt present to a total suspension for any self welfare – everyone seemed to be there for the benefit of each other and for those we serve at least as much (if not more), than they were there for themselves.  There was a mutual exchange of wisdom and creative ideas.  Everyone seemed to leave the conference with great book clarity as well as a killer title and subtitle.  I was almost the exception to that rule.

I was the last one to get it – I went there pretty clear and then my ideas changed several times and a book title just wasn’t materializing.  I had my personal coaching time with the group just as everyone else did – it wasn’t their problem that I went through a funk of confusion – I got fair treatment.  Expect – they made it their problem.  I was called back up for additional time and I was so grateful.  The entire group worked together with me on my book concept and title (yet again), and during that time I thought “it’s okay for me to be confused – in fact, it’s perfect!”  I remembered who I served – I serve high performing people who get confused about what their next career-related step could be.  Because they want so much to do well, they often work themselves right into a state of confusion and then stall on taking purposeful action.  Then I remembered why I serve these people – because I AM one of those people and because I have learned to emerge my true self and manifest what I want despite confusion and move forward certain of happiness and success.

I also remembered that I was there to get inspiration and support from a high caliber team – not to figure things out for myself in the presence of a high-caliber team.  A few minutes, later clarity came along with a book title and subtitle that everyone was excited about!  The unforeseen gain for me was witnessing all of us work together to find an ingenious way to say what was difficult for me to express – to see the seemingly impossible (get me out of confusion) be inevitable – and all within a matter of about 10 minutes.  The clarity of what you want (for me – book clarity) and the willingness to take action on the opportunities in front of you (support from – not with or among –  a high-caliber team) is always all you need.  Your attitude (becoming at peace with my confusion), is often the thing that speeds up feeling present to even more than the results you initially imagined.

The time that I spent with this crew was amazing!  Instead of telling you the specifics what they did for and gave to us (because it would just be full of boring industry jargon), I will share the feeling I experienced with you.  Just imagine if you could work with even one of the top people in your field and that they happily gave you the perfect amount of inspiration, support and wisdom your mind and heart could hold.  But then, within their delivery process, they also gave you an experience of giving and receiving beyond anything you ever experienced.  That’s what I was most present to at the end of our 2 1/2 days together.  I will now be working closely with them for the next 11 months.  I am certain that I, our group and they will experience so much more than we all can imagine.  The best part is that all of you, those that I serve, will be the ones who benefit the most from a certain, though currently  unimaginable, magnitude of gain that will offer you support and guidance as you navigate your chosen work and life path.

When we were wrapping up after 2  1/2 days, we joined in a circle and expressed thanks for our time together.  During that time I began to cry so hard that the tears (and snot) were just streaming down my face (I am not usually a crier).  I was so moved by everything that I had experienced with the group of current and future best-selling authors – particularly the space to be me – confused and sometimes stuck!  Of course those that I serve are confused and feel stuck – I related so deeply to that experience on the path to success.  By accepting it and seeing a possible purpose for it, I have learned to leverage it and to move on towards success time and time again.  I wouldn’t trade this trait in me for anything as it has connected me to a sense of purpose – one that is dedicated to serving those in need of clarity and freedom.  Stay tuned – this blog is just a hint of what my book is about!

Decide to work with those who are at the top of your chosen profession.  Hang with others who decide to do the same.  Be yourself through the whole experience.

About Gina Calvano

Gina Calvano is a certified coach and Senior Professional in Human Resources, with over 20 years of experience as a talent management professional in both the private and non-profit sectors. With a unique approach, she combines her strategic corporate expertise and accreditations with metaphysics and transformational thinking which has resulted in people all over the world feeling good about themselves and connected to a sense of purpose.

She created the Success Readiness Bootcamp™, a step by step process that enables people to easily discover their unique talents and abilities and match them to majors, jobs, industries and leisure pursuits. Gina is also the co-author of Breakthrough! Inspirational Strategies for an Audaciously Authentic Life with NY Times Best Selling Authors Marci Shimoff, Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood and Powerful Connections Made Easy™ with Aprille Trupiano, and is currently working on her next book — Caged in My Cube: The Turnaround Guide For Loving The Job You Hate.

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