Still ready to quit? Want to be transitioned to a job you love much faster and easier? Then stop doing this to yourself …

Warning:  this blog might be tough to read…


… but it can help you gain your power back in a job situation you just wanna quit.


Buckle up…


Identifying with any of the 3 scenarios in my latest blog series about quitting your job is living in agreement that there’s something wrong with your current job, employer, work environment, etc.


This erroneously identifies the problem as being outside of yourself leaving you powerless and in victim mode.  Still ready to quit? Want to be transitioned to a job you love much faster and easier?  Then stop doing this to yourself …

…stop believing the something’s wrong with the job which only puts you in victim mode – here’s why…


Nurturing a thought that you are a victim restricts you to primitive reactive options – fight or flight as taught to us in the ‘20s by Walter Cannon (the “flight or fight response” is a.k.a. the “acute stress response”).  Are you ready to bail (flight reaction), or are you fighting with people at work (fight reaction)?


If just don’t like to job, work environment or boss you will be in pain.  But if  you feel powerless to prove your value in it you will suffer.


Being in pain or suffering diminishes your ability to be clear if your best option is …


1. to stay and face the problem – which is really an opportunity to overcome some chronic fear or re-occurring personal challenge




2.  to realize that you have outgrown the job – this is usually the case if you used to enjoy the job and then things seem to have inexplicably changed – suddenly you wonder why you no longer feel so warm and fuzzy about the job, place, boss, etc.


As Byron Katie says:  Everything happens for us, not to us.”


The job, employer, work environment, etc. isn’t the problem – the problem is you have something to contribute (which you may sense but not be fully in touch with – and how can you give what’s not clear to you), and you don’t believe it’s either:


possible to give




would be valued if it was offered.


Could the job be presenting a situation that provides an opportunity for you to overcome or discover something personal or innate within you?  Maybe to discover what you truly have to offer and give it (and get on track to being valued for it)!  If you don’t “face the beast” at this job I assure you it will show up at the next job.  The Universe never let’s us off the hook for our development.  If you don’t face it here you will only recognize job opportunities that present the same problems over and over again.  You may need a break from the battle – give yourself what you need to recharge (here’s how).


Or is it just time to go – time to spread your wings further and grow somewhere else that needs you more?  When we have outgrown a job or work environment and we stay it keeps us contracted or feeling restricted.  What would it feel like to wear shoes all day, every day that were too small/too narrow/too wide/too not your style/too unsupportive for your arch or preferred comfort/too wrong for the weather, etc.?  You’d probably be pretty crabby, complain about the shoes a lot, and be dying to get home to get those shoes off and into a pair that felt perfect – right?


No doubt, you and this job are a poor match.  But that doesn’t make the job, work environment, boss, etc. bad, wrong and terrible.  It’s probably a perfect fit for someone “else’s feet”.


Still ready to quit? Want to be transitioned to a job you love much faster and easier?  Then stop doing this to yourself …


…stop believing the something’s wrong with the job which only puts you in victim mode – here’s how…


Do you believe you have something to offer that your current job would not value?  Here’s the secret for being ushered more quickly and painlessly toward another opportunity that will …


Give it anyway!!  


In over 20 years as an HR executive I have never seen anyone get into unforgivable trouble by contributing anything that is given with an intention of offering value.  In my experience, people who do that (even if they make a mistake) are called “valued employees” – not “perfect employees”.  How we offer value to others is unique to each of us – it is “your work”.  Your job is the means by which you offer “your work”.  Being focused just on the tasks required by your job is like making food without putting any love into it – we all have tasted the difference of food made with love vs. food made by someone who just doesn’t want to or like to cook!  Yum vs. yuck (or bland at best)!  I’ll share more about doing “your work” vs. “your job” in my next blog.


You just might be surprised at how “your work” is received.  Even if it isn’t received the way you want it to be – guess what?  It doesn’t matter!  You will be operating in agreement that you have valuable contributions to make – contributions that can make a difference for others.  If your current job truly doesn’t value that (or deserve it) – you will be ushered more quickly and painlessly toward another opportunity that will.


Let me remind you what Albert Einstein has to say about getting the life you want:


It’s one of my favorite quotes – so I’ll share it with you again and again.




The world needs you to grow, evolve and contribute authentically and fully.  And you deserve to contribute in a place that truly values what you have to offer.  Get there faster – call me today!


From now until Labor Day I am offering a free 15 minute To Quit or Not to Quit consultation session.  In this free session I will review with you the factors that matter greatly for deciding the best strategy for you to cope with the situation at work that has you so stressed out, you want to walk out.


Yes!  Sign me up!


At the end of the 15 minute session, I will offer you a preferred rate for a 1 hour To Quit or Not to Quit coaching session.  In this 1 hour session we will go through your situation in detail and I will help you figure out:


  1. Your daily “emotional wealth building” action plan
  2. Personal clarity for the factors that matter for deciding “To Quit or Not to Quit?”  (that is the question)!
  3. Your best recovery strategy given your unique situation.


After the To Quit or Not to Quit coaching session, I will also offer you a second session also at a preferred rate!  


My Personal Brand Confidence coaching session is a great follow-up to shift how you approach your current job AND to prepare yourself for interviewing for new jobs.


This session offers you the opportunity to:

  • discover what you have to offer to others (discover what “your work” truly is)!
  • approach your job with a whole new level of clarity, confidence and conviction!
  • learn how to explain what you do for others in a way that sets you apart from your competition
  • feel confident about how to market yourself  – even over others with more experience than you
  • content for your resume or cover letters


You don’t have to struggle figuring out what to do while suffering in your current situation.  Help is here!  Schedule your free session today!

About Gina Calvano

Gina Calvano is a certified coach and Senior Professional in Human Resources, with over 20 years of experience as a talent management professional in both the private and non-profit sectors. With a unique approach, she combines her strategic corporate expertise and accreditations with metaphysics and transformational thinking which has resulted in people all over the world feeling good about themselves and connected to a sense of purpose.

She created the Success Readiness Bootcamp™, a step by step process that enables people to easily discover their unique talents and abilities and match them to majors, jobs, industries and leisure pursuits. Gina is also the co-author of Breakthrough! Inspirational Strategies for an Audaciously Authentic Life with NY Times Best Selling Authors Marci Shimoff, Janet Bray Attwood and Chris Attwood and Powerful Connections Made Easy™ with Aprille Trupiano, and is currently working on her next book — Caged in My Cube: The Turnaround Guide For Loving The Job You Hate.

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